It's back again, that time that gets everyone talking. That's right you've got it, we're talking about a Leap Year! Why does it get everyone talking? It's because once every 4 years it is socially acceptable for a woman to propose to a man. An archaic ideology we know, but one that unfortunately is still exists in these modern times.
As you know we love planning proposals, it's what we're good at and it's a massive bonus that we get to make couples incredibly happy once in a while. Ok, more than once in a while. (We've planned over 650 proposals in the last four years!) We adore planning Leap Year proposals, but unfortunately with a staggering 79% of women not feeling brave enough to propose to their man we don't get to plan as many as we'd like. Luckily we've still had some ladies who have taken the plunge.
Where does the idea of a Leap Year proposal come from?
There are a number of theories of where this tradition comes from:
- In the 5th Century it is rumoured that St Brigid of Kildare, an Irish nun, asked St Patrick to let women propose after many women were left waiting for a proposal from their boyfriends. He granted her wish and allowed women to propose every four years on a Leap Day.
- In 1288 the five-year-old Queen Margaret of Scotland allegedly created a law, which allowed women to propose on a Leap Year as long as they wore a red petticoat. If a woman's boyfriend rejected her proposal he was forced to pay a fine.
- If a woman in Finland wanted to propose to their boyfriend they had to do it on a Leap Day, as it was the only day that gave the couple good luck. If the boyfriend refused he was required to pay a fine, (enough money to pay for a new skirt).
- In some European countries, if a man rejected his girlfriends proposal he would have to buy her twelve pairs of gloves to hide the shame of being rejected.
How to Propose:
The thought of proposing can be daunting for anyone, but don't worry if you remember these few basic tips to proposing, we promise that you'll be absolutely fine!
- Consider whether you're definitely ready. There's a reason why he hasn't proposed yet. It could be because he's lazy or scared of commitment, or perhaps he just thinks that you are not in the right financial position at the moment to be married. Or he could not just be at the same stage as you! Make sure you suss this out before you propose.
- Tailor the proposal to him. What does you partner like or dislike? If he likes fishing write 'Will You Marry Me', on little note and attach it to his hook. If he likes football you can write it on the back of a shirt of his favourite team.
- Propose in private. Men are very protective of their ego and you definitely don't want to bruise it whilst proposing. Do you have a spot that you always go together or is there somewhere that you've always wanted to visit? Make sure that you find a romantic spot where you can pop the question in private and he'll thank you for it later.
- Get him a ring. If your boyfriend is the kind of man that would wear jewellery then definitely get him a ring. Take a look at our partners, Purely Diamonds, stunning collection of man-gagement rings here. If he doesn't like to wear a ring why not buy him a watch instead. That way at least he'll remember to get to the church on time!
What if he says no?
Don't worry and don't panic. You don't know why he's said no. He may have been planning to propose to you and you just got there first. Or maybe he's just not ready to make that kind commitment. Instead of thinking this is the end of the world, instead talk to him about why he's not ready for marriage yet.
Extraordinary Proposal Traditions from Around the World
There are a lot of weird and wonderful proposal traditions from around the world, which Purely Diamonds
have put together on the infographic below. If you'd like to plan your own proposal at The View From The Shard, but would like a helping hand let us know at email@example.com
. We are the UK and Europe's leading proposal planners and have planned over 650 proposals in the last 3 years so you are in safe hands with us! If you would like to propose with a beautiful diamond ring take a look at our partners, Purely Diamonds, beautiful collection of diamond rings here